Writings

Yesterday I read an article during and after which I felt scared.    I imagine I’m not the only one who has had that experience recently, so I thought it might be helpful to share how I worked with the fear.   The first thing I did was notice. “I am scared.” To me, that […]

Unbind yourself from contradictions. If you are stuck, they may be why.   Trace your rules back to their source Were they ever yours to begin with?   Or were they modeled? Inherited? Overheard? Impressed upon you…or else.   Did they come from an abstract authority Or your own innermost knowing?   Were they helpful […]

   There’s only one thing I’ve ever foundTo fill the hole inside. Money won’t do the jobAnd a job is not enough. Looking good just covers up The deeper painful stuff Approval from outside won’t do, Pride only last so long Soon the hole is back again As deep and just as strong Accomplishments […]

On a recent road trip, Vince and I pulled up alongside several handwritten signs staked near intersection. As the passenger, I leaned toward the window and could easily make out the messages. They all boiled down to : Trump is an idiot  Trump is crazy  Don’t trust Trump  And about 12 others. “What do they say?” Vince asked, his eyes focused on the […]

A few months ago, my friend Diana suggested I watch The Biggest Little Farm. “You will love it.” she said. And boy-oh-boy was she right. I LOVED it. It changed the way I SEE. Specifically the way I see nature, but what isn’t nature? Aren’t we nature? Recently, my friends Jon and Sharon posited that the Earth doesn’t actually top out at the ground […]

Turtles All the Way Down.  There’s a story in which one person asks another, “On what is the Earth resting?” The second person answers, “Why, the Earth is resting on a turtle’s back!” The first person asks, “Then on what is that turtle resting?” The second person answers, “Why, another turtle, of course!” The first […]

Those of you who have been following me for a while may have noticed that my art tends to be clean, clear, simple, and tries to make a point. Without knowing why or how, these values had unconsciously become the only way I felt comfortable creating. Until yesterday. Before we get to show and tell, […]

At the beginning of May, Vince Wendling, a 39-year old, Minnesota-born, passionate, peaceful, loving man, said goodbye to his housemates, coworkers, friends, and a cat (not his) named Frank. He put most of his things in storage, sold his car, and slung a backpack into my trunk. I climbed into the passenger side, he took […]

Even When No Matter What   Let yourself be loved. Even when you can’t imagine why, let yourself be loved. Even when you’re completely lost, let yourself be loved. Even when you’ve been a jerk, let yourself be loved. Even when everyone else seems to be doing more or better, let yourself be loved.   […]

When I saw Hamilton for the first time, I was totally struck by the show, as everyone is.  But I was also struck by the contrast of a cast of people color and an audience of white people, like me. In the same moment I felt my heart break, I had an idea. For 15 […]

Last night I was taking to Allan about relationships, labels, and commitment. Allan is a Canadian man I’ve been recently dating. Note to Americans: if you find yourself “dating” a Canadian, you might want to have conversation about what that word means to each of you, to save yourself from an awkward moment. :-) Allan […]

Originally published in Elephant Journal These days I do yoga because it feels like sex. I told this to someone recently who said, “Really? You must not have great sex.” “Maybe,” I admitted, “but could it be that you haven’t had great yoga?” When I say yoga feels like sex, I don’t mean the penetrating, […]